Ain’t No Party Like A Oprah Winfrey Party….

18 Sep

We converged from all over the country to the land of Motown for the Live Your Life Tour Detroit hosted by Oprah Winfrey and friends.oprah-tour-life-you-want-949x534 DJ  Kiss got the audience primed and ready for the feast with electrifying sounds and beats. Iyanla Vanzant danced with us and invited us on a journey to free ourselves and welcoming us into the Awakening that was about to occur.For many of us we had already started this on this path. This event would serve as an oasis as we prepared for the rest of our journey.  The evening started with Oprah leading us through a series of monumental moments in her life that mirrored our own lives. After all we grew up with Lady O., we knew her story yet it captivated us to see it all laid out together. Through Oprah’s eyes we saw our own legacy in the making.

We welcomed day two with prayers and meditation with Mark Nepo and Winfrey. Weeping and crying as we released our fears accepting our now. Elizabeth took us on an Odyssey of adventure of where our life would lead if we followed our heart calling. Rob Bell fascinated us with embracing our quirky selves and extending faith as we follow Gods Call. We were introduced to the life story of the amazing heroine  Amy Purdy. Many of us tried Soul Cycle for the first time. Oh what an energy raising joy!

10538621_10203986951146016_1210509870655811144_n Oprah winfrey tourThen Iyanla Vanzant on her birthday no less showered us with a message of acceptance and love. She beckoned us to live our truth. She lit up the stage with her phenomenal self and exuded her usual rawness and beauty that rocked the core of our personal truths.

I have been to many conferences and events over the years. This one will always stand out in my mind as one of the most spiritual and uplifting I have attended.  The central message of love was everywhere. Kindness dripped from the employees throughout the building. The attendees were patient with one another and giving. It felt almost like a church. People talked to each other and embraced one another. Once strangers we were all friends by day two.  There were spontaneous gestures of love all weekend such as the conga line at lunch, the crowd offering up a beautiful happy birthday Song to Iyanla and Oprah dancing with us to sounds of  DJ Kiss.

By lunch the Party was just getting started  and we rocked the day away. O town was open with sponsors and celebrities out to greet the crowd.  My daughter who was my guest for the event took selfies with Gayle King, Elizabeth Gilbert, Rob Bell and Amy Purdy.  It was a love fest.

Iyanla VI raise my hand and hat to Lady Oprah. Cheers. Thank you for bringing this event to us live and in person.  I have already begun my homework of working on my areas of life that do not resemble what I believe to be true. I have set my intention to live better, be better and not to settle for less.  Thank you and cheers.

Purely Yours,


As a member of the media I was so impressed with the care that was given to us. We received the most amazing seats and love by the media staff. This event raised my bar of how I want to be treated at future events I cover.  Full disclosure I recieved tickets to the event along with a guest (daughter) compliments of Life You Want Tour,LLC. 


What If The Roles Were Reversed?

7 Sep

A few weeks ago I was privileged to speak at a book club annual event. It was a joyous occasion9781476730530being amongst book lovers. So while traveling in the hotel and mingling with folks throughout the two-day event I would stop and pose the question “What are you currently reading?” to whomever I ran into. The answers varied but one answer that caught my attention was by a woman who said “I am reading Forty Acres and you should too” She went on to express how the book was a thriller with a hook.

I was sold and wanted to know more about this book. A few days later, I had the book Forty Acres; A Thriller, in my hands. A few short moments later I knew this book would go down in history as a must read book. I also knew that  one day this book will be made into a movie. The premise of the book lives in a secret society of affluent African-Americans who are out to reverse the system in their own way. For those of you that follow my blog I am hugely a self-help book fan but every now and then I take a detour. Forty Acres was my detour into fiction writing. I laid awake  for four nights in darkness praying that the beacon of light Martin would break through as I moved through this fast paced thriller.

At times I found myself in rage with the characters and then at other times I was in agreement about society and the history of the black plight. This story also begs the question of forgiveness. African-Americans who labored so hard to build this country are often in a trance by ideology to forgive the wrongs that were done to us. It is even written in our American constitution that we should not reap any reward for our sufferings. Prisons are filled with African-American men and women who commit petty crimes. We are also asked to sit down while our children continue to be murdered in the street, mostly recently in Ferguson,Missouri.

This book challenges us to think about race relations today in America. It asks the question – Can we reverse the effects of Slavery?  It also begs us to examine unfair practices that have driven wealth out of black communities. At the end of the book I wondered to myself – What if slavery was reversed? Would African-Americans have been so easily forgiven?

Have you read this thriller? Share your thoughts with me.

With faith and hope for a brighter future,

Melisa Alaba

Melisa Alaba is a Spiritual Life Coach, Speaker and  Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her  classes or retreats. Learn more at


Is Fear Holding You Back?

6 Sep

When I think of the number one emotion that causes the most pain to the human body fear is the first thing that pops up in my mind. Fear cripples people and causes them to go into paralysis leaving a trail of sadness, unlived lives and hopelessness. So what I know for sure is you can conquer fear by living a life full of purpose. Each day choose to stare fear down and take action.  Eleanor Roosevelt said it best with this statement “Do one thing every day that scares you.”  Conquering fear does not mean that you will not get scared sometimes but it does me you will do it anyway.

Get started living your best life by following these 5 actions steps today:

  1. Dispel old beliefs, examine and challenge them– Many old beliefs stem from our childhood. Maybe you were told you should be quiet and not speak to adults in public. This belief may cause you to have challenges when asked to present a topic at work. Examine the belief by figuring out when it begin and how it has played a role in your life. Then dispel the belief with a statement such as “I have a good voice and it should be heard by everyone.” “I no longer need to remain quiet”. Finally challenge the belief by moving to step 2-speak to a gathering of people on a topic.
  2.  Just do it- Just like the famous Nike slogan. When you are passionate about something and you know it is the right thing to do. Just do it. Start from where you are and soon you will build momentum.
  3.  Affirmations– are vital to reprogramming our mind to see fear differently. Repeating affirmations will help you overcome old beliefs that you may have regarding a matter.
  4. Repeat step three– Yes that’s right being consistent over time will yield massive results. Imagine being a restaurant reviewer. Each time you do a review you will become better and better over time. In the book Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell states that when we dedicate 10,000 hours to a craft we become an expert. Consistency is the key.
  5. Educate and Train yourself– When you take the time to study your craft, practice or understand how something works we naturally become less fearful because of the knowledge that we have. For example if speaking were an issue for you joining and participating in a group such; as toastmasters, would be a self-study that would help you hone your voice.

Lastly remember that every day is an opportunity to grow and overcome our challenges. How will you overcome your fear today? Write me I want to hear from you.

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Melisa Alaba is a Spiritual Life Coach, Speaker and  Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her  classes or retreats. Learn more at

All Is Well

6 Sep
All is Well , Heal Your Body

All is Well , Heal Your Body


We live in a time where sickness and disease are common occurrences and are almost expectations of getting older. With the rise of holistic medicine it seems there is a battle between traditional solutions and new age remedies. All Is Well is the solution to the question – Do I follow the instructions of my doctor or my herbalist? The authors seek to integrate medical advances with holistic approaches to find long-term solutions so we can become healthy people.

All Is Well: Heal Your Body with Medicine, Affirmations, and Intuition by Louise Hay and Mona Lisa Schulz M.D. Ph.D. goes more in depth with healing the body through the mind body connection. Armed with medical knowledge we look at the origins of medical issues. Louise then guides us to wholeness and wellness with affirmations designed to heal us from the inside out and exercises that empower us to nature ourselves and knowledge.

All Is Well separates the body into groups of organ or emotional centers that are interconnected to our emotions. Based on these emotional centers the authors offer us probable causes to mental and physical issues that we are experiencing.

Whether you are a believer or just curious about the whole mind body experience you can’t help but evaluate and examine your own beliefs about what you are experiencing or have experienced in regards to disease in your life. As I read the book it struck me how the symptoms I once had in my lower back so closely fit the profile of the person Louise described in the chapter on back pain. I remember being stuck during that time and feeling pressure to stay in a situation that I no longer wanted to be in. That is when the back pain started. Once I began to change my situation and make choices that truly supported who I had become the back pain left.

The book remains true to Louise Hays’ core philosophy – we can heal ourselves. We are responsible for our lives. We are also guided to look more ineptly at life situations as we experience issues in our body. What circumstances, core beliefs or life patterns have allowed us to be in this current situation?

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is seeking a new way of being free from disease and sickness. You truly can be well.


Purely yours,


Melisa Alaba is a Spiritual Life Coach, Speaker and  Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her  classes or retreats. Learn more at

How She Got Free

22 Aug

Entrepreneurship is rewarding but it also can be tough. So how does an entrepreneur manage a family, business, relationships and take care of themselves?   How  She Got Free , 5 Step Spiritual Business Manual to women who lead through Entrepreneurship, offers solutions for the woman who struggles to experience true success in her business and in life.

At an awards show last year I was honored to meet Akilah Richards and Katrina Harrell, panelists at the event. Katrina talked about her struggles and successes as an entrepreneur; she did not want others to experience the trials and errors she had and so she penned How I Got Free, along with Akilah Richards.

How She Got Free

How She Got Free

The book chronicles the life of Layna, an entrepreneur who has experienced success and defeat. Layna longed to live the life of her dreams but found herself off-balance in her health, marriage and in having systems within her business to provide her with the structure she needed to succeed. The story of Layna allows you to peek into the life of a financially successful entrepreneur who lacks systems that allow for a well-lived life.

How She Got Free offers s a five-step plan that will lead you to discovering your Achilles heel in business and in life. Richards and Harrell provide soul work exercises after each chapter which guide you into rebuilding your business model. The authors believe that every business is viable when the right systems are put into place. Harrell hold you accountable for having a strategic business plan, accountability partners, and dealing with personality flaws that may lead to poor choices and decisions. According to Richards, many businesses fail because of lack of planning and delegating.

I  recommend this book for anyone who is struggling in their current business or for new business owners who want to start with a good foundation.  This is a great resource for gaining ideas about how to be a well-balanced entrepreneur. Richards and Harrell are among the growing number of Indie authors who are adding value to the literary community.

Living a Life of Joy,


Melisa Alaba is the Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her many classes on her website


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