Archive | July, 2012

10 Ways to Re-Connect with your loved ones

24 Jul

Our society is caught up in a state of perpetual busyness. We have trained ourselves to multi-task while reading e-mails, watching television, driving and eating while engaging in work, social media and phone calls. All this multi-tasking has caused us to become more disconnected from our family and friends. We have also convinced ourselves that in order to be successful we have to work long hours during the week and on the weekend. In essence we have lost sight of what is really important.

Spending quality time with our family and friends has been proven to be the highest measure of happiness in one’s life.  I am fortunate to have three beautiful daughters that remind me to stay in the moment everyday. Because I place such high regard for them I listen to what they have shared with me over the years.

The lessons began sixteen years ago and they continue today. This list was compiled with the input of Ariel and Yemi Alaba. These are the things that they told me that every kid desires!

You too can put them to practice to reconnect with your children or loved ones.

Tip#1 Leave your work at work.

Tip #2 Don’t accept business calls in the car, during dinner or family time.

Tip #3 Schedule talk time with your children everyday.

Tip#4 Have fun with them. Don’t just take them to the amusement park but get on the rides.

Tip#5 Preach less and listen more.

Tip#6 Live the lifestyle that you want them to embrace. Teenagers despise hypocrites.

Tip#7 Eat dinner together at least 3 times a week. You will be amazed at what your children will share over dinner.

Tip#8 Take care of yourself mentally, spiritually and physically. Kids want their parents to take care of themselves. An added bonus of living this tip is that your children will emulate this as well.

Tip #9 Praise your children or loved one MORE than you criticize them. They already know their faults. Sometimes they just need a cheerleader.

Tip #10 Don’t put them in the middle of your relationships.  Give your child the opportunity to determine the relationship that they will have with others.  Allow kids to be kids without the pressure of managing family drama.

Being in the moment is so important to keeping and building a healthy relationship. I hope that you were inspired by this post. Write me to let me know how you reconnected with your family and friends.

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