Archive | May, 2014

My One Life Coaching Pet Peeve

20 May

For those of you who follow me you know I am not that big on pet peeves. I believe that everyone has a path and we are all different. I also believe that we each of us has some thing that we do that may rub someone the wrong way. With that said I want to stay true to the day #6-  Blog Post challenge  which I  have dedicated the next 30 days to complete. So here we go….

The one  industry pet peeve that I have about the coaching industry is that many life coaches attempt  to  teach principles and lessons that they have not experienced or mastered. I believe the best coaches have done the homework themselves.  Please do misunderstand me, I am not saying that you need to be perfect to be a coach or have solved all of your issues  successfully guide someone else to their victory.

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I am just acknowledging that there are certain principles, strategies and ways of thinking which will allow you to be more effective in your work. Take some time to challenge your own fear. Be adventrous and do something different. Continue to broaden your education by attending conferences, taking additional trainings and receiving  individual coaching. Truly live your life so you can help someone who is stuck figure themselves out. Allow yourself to be the first student and success as a coach will be inevitable.

You will be richly rewarded because the more you learn the more people you will reach. What are some exercises that you do to stretch your abilities and knowledge in your industry?

Authentically yours,



The best advice I ever received….

20 May

I am always amazed at how God will send you the right message  just when you need them. Some of the  best advice I ever received was from some of our countries leading thought leaders ,expressed through a television program or one of their books.  Listed below are 5 pieces of advice that I find myself using and references over and over again.


1.            Bishop TD Jakes once said  ” Your gift is always your gift no matter what happens in life. He went on to say “ Never stop doing what you were called to do” . Wow. That continues to resonate with my spirit because it is what I needed to know so badly. I needed to understand that I would get tired sometimes and I would even feel like giving up but I was never to stop living on purpose. This advice has led me to go on retreats and take daily quiet time because I understand that we are not our gift and we have to take care of the vessel that it dwells in.  Thanks Bishop Jakes.

2.       Joyce Meyer was dead on with the following thoughts. She said  “Your daily practices of service, stewardship are just as important than spreading your talent world wide. When you discipline  yourself in small things God will bless you in big things.”  I consider myself a servant to mankind. I work to treat everyone with dignity and respect.

3.            Iyanla Vanzant shared this wisdom nugget on Oprah a few years ago, “When you see crazy coming cross the street.”  This is my most hilarious but truest advice. It is also listed as one of my favorite quotes because I take this advice literally. The moment I see people or situations that are not right you can bet your last dollar I  am crossing the street.

4.            I credit my late grandmother with this next morsel of  wisdom.  My grandmother would always say  “A man is like a bus when one leaves another will come around in the next five minutes. Study your books you will always have an opportunity to have a relationship.”  I believe my grandmother wanted me to know that new opportunities are always on the rise but I needed to be tuned into my  gifts and other blessings would follow me. Grandmother was very wise.

5.            I’m not quite sure who gave me this golden piece of wisdom but I know it has been one of the pillars of my learning experience. The statement, “All of the answers to the biggest secrets to life are in a book.”  This still rings true every single time I need an answer or some information  I find it in a book. Someone somewhere had the same issue and solved it and now they have produced a book to help me figure it out also.

I hope some of the wisdom shared with me inspires and encourages you.  I would love to hear from you  so go ahead and leave a comment  or tweet me. Let me know the  best advice that you have received? And how has it served you?

Enjoy the Journey,


Melisa Alaba is the Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or celebrating her birthday (everyday) with a slice of birthday cake. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her many classes on her website at

5 Must Have Tools for Busy Mommy Authors

19 May


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Many authors today have demanding careers outside of their writing as well a family to tend too.  My home is no different.  But just like you I had a goal of completing my book and launch products and I was determined to meet it.  So how did I find the time?  A word of caution  is advised before we move on. You are now entering the “No Excuse Zone”.  I live by this motto and everyone in the house understands that we all have goals and we are responsible for making them happen. But even with the best intentions life happens so here are some strategies to create space and time in your life for getting your book done.

  1. Limit your activities when you are close to completing your book. Ask friends and family to help with carpooling and do not take on any new commitments. Allow your children or  spouse to do the laundry and other household tasks. Leave empty spaces on your calendar just to think about your book and to figure out your process and of course to write. Many times we unconsciously take on more responsiblities to avoid completing major goals.
  1. Create a meal plan with easy and nutritious meals. Look on-line or get a simple meals cook book to get fresh and easy ideas that can be cooked in thirty minutes or less. Also make sure you keep healthy snacks on hand. It so easy to eat poorly when you are writing late or early during the day. Having a system will help you get a meal on the table quickly and you back to your writing.
  1. Use a recording application on your cell phone when inspiration comes. You can also record chapters of your book and have them typed later by a trained transcriptionists .
  1. Keep a monthly master calendar in your kitchen or family room. Let everyone know your schedule and also keep track of theirs so you don’t miss any important activities. I also keep one calendar with my personal and business  meetings so I do not mix anything up. Taking the time to do this each month and updating the calendar weekly will ensure that you have blocked time for writing with few surprises during the weeks.
  1. Have a completion weekend. I generally write fifteen minutes to thirty minutes each day on bigger projects such as classes, books or information products. However, I schedule a completion weekend each month. The weekend is designed to bring all the pieces togehter.  This is your time to connect the dots such as sorting your research, editing your work, or trimming your content.  The key to having a successful weekend is to have a plan.  Plan on leisure time to relax and have organized time to work while away. During these weekends I  complete projects and you will too if you follow your plan. You may spend the weekend at a resort, in a cabin or in your private office. Last thought- Make sure you announce to your family and friends that you will be unplugged for the weekend. This will give you more uninterrupted time to write!

I know what it feels like to have the dream of birthing your first book  buried deep inside of you. Today I declare it is time to see your dream come to life. Ready to write your first book? Create a CD? Live on Purpose?  Well, I am here for you with step by step programs to help you release your dreams.

Wishing You Joy and Success,

Melisa Alaba


Melisa Alaba is the Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her many classes on her website


5 Quotes that I Love

19 May

Thanks for joining me on the 30 day blogging challenge.  Today we are sharing our favorite quotes.  Like many of you I love quotes. I collect them in my notes on my phone and keep a journal with ones that inspire or motivate me in some way.  Quotes are perfect for those moments when you need direction or just encouragement to move forward. Look for more of my favorite quotes on my twitter feed where I share daily doses of  inspiration and calls to actions. 5 Quotes That I love

Let’s start with  5 of my most beloved quotes.

1.  ” Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs ” – Farrah Gray. I love this quote because it reminds me why I became an entreprenuer and why I choose to continue on this path.

2.  ” The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them ” -Maya Angelou.  Dr.Angelou reminds us to trust our instints with her signature quote. Her words have never steered me wrong thus far.

3. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”  -Marianne Williamson.  We often fear the unknown the unconquered yet we long to do something different. This quote forces us to deal with doubt and to overcome them by taking action. I truly embrace this quote because every time I embark on a new journey. I remember that the real reason for living our purpose is to encourage someone else to step into theirs. 

4. ” I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you with my loving eye on you” – Psalm 32:8 .  I carry this scripture on one of my signature silver bangle bracelets it is a beautiful reminder that God is always with me and that he will lead me to the answers that I am searching for. This scripture gives me peace and assurance that I do not need to rush or scurry but be still and just know.

5. ” When you see crazy coming, cross the street” – Iyanla Vanzant.  Many times we engage in situations that can easily be avoided. This simple saying reminds us to avoid other peoples drama and embrace peace.


I hope you enjoyed reading my favorite quotes. I would love to read yours so e-mail or tweet me your favorite quote and you may see it in one of my upcoming post.

As always I wish you Joy and Peace,


Melisa Alaba is the Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her many classes on her website

Please Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself (Part 1)

18 May

Please allow me to re- introduce myself.  My name is Melisa Alaba. . I am always excited, mostly due to the fact that I get to nurture and learn from some of the coolest people on earth; Owolabi, Ariel, Yemi and Dayo everyday. A few years ago, I reinvented my life into one that is full of purpose, love and truth. Then I wrote a book named , Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose, so others could do the same.

I enjoy walking, meditating, reading and just thinking. I adore social media but I am notorious for unplugging daily. I love structure but I resist ridgid rules. I often play outside of the lines. I am an independent thinker who is willing herself to trust my spirit more each day.

Myths- Most people think I am an extrovert but I am an introvert at my core. I would prefer to curl up to a good book or relax on a beach then attend a gala or party. Although, I have been known to step out from time to time (laughing out loud to no one in particular but myself) .

I feel the most alive when I am creating a new class, executing a plan, writing my thoughts or helping someone else achieve their dreams.

What I can’t live without- My life would lose it’s flavor if books suddenly disappeared or God forbid- chocolate was no longer manufactured or imported into the country.

What I can live without- I could easily live without television and  clocks. I hate pulling away from something when I get my groove going.

And My Blog- Look for weekly self-help book reviews that will help you in your personal and professional life. I will share more insightful articles such as this and yes more spirit and purpose blogs that will guide you on your journey.

What’s Next? Thanks to you I have a national platform with clients from coast to coast which gives me a lot of flexiability to travel while I work .  So this  summer I will create classes, programs and products to serve you better while traveling to some beautiful destinations.  Expect awesome programs and courses to assist you on your journey in the fall of this year.

Thanks to everyone who has supported my blog, coaching practice and book. You absolutely Rock! I love you and I look forward to hearing about your victories. Remember life is not a race it is a journey.

Wishing You Peace and Joy,


Melisa Alaba is the Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her many classes at her website

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