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Ain’t No Party Like A Oprah Winfrey Party….

18 Sep

We converged from all over the country to the land of Motown for the Live Your Life Tour Detroit hosted by Oprah Winfrey and friends.oprah-tour-life-you-want-949x534 DJ  Kiss got the audience primed and ready for the feast with electrifying sounds and beats. Iyanla Vanzant danced with us and invited us on a journey to free ourselves and welcoming us into the Awakening that was about to occur.For many of us we had already started this on this path. This event would serve as an oasis as we prepared for the rest of our journey.  The evening started with Oprah leading us through a series of monumental moments in her life that mirrored our own lives. After all we grew up with Lady O., we knew her story yet it captivated us to see it all laid out together. Through Oprah’s eyes we saw our own legacy in the making.

We welcomed day two with prayers and meditation with Mark Nepo and Winfrey. Weeping and crying as we released our fears accepting our now. Elizabeth took us on an Odyssey of adventure of where our life would lead if we followed our heart calling. Rob Bell fascinated us with embracing our quirky selves and extending faith as we follow Gods Call. We were introduced to the life story of the amazing heroine  Amy Purdy. Many of us tried Soul Cycle for the first time. Oh what an energy raising joy!

10538621_10203986951146016_1210509870655811144_n Oprah winfrey tourThen Iyanla Vanzant on her birthday no less showered us with a message of acceptance and love. She beckoned us to live our truth. She lit up the stage with her phenomenal self and exuded her usual rawness and beauty that rocked the core of our personal truths.

I have been to many conferences and events over the years. This one will always stand out in my mind as one of the most spiritual and uplifting I have attended.  The central message of love was everywhere. Kindness dripped from the employees throughout the building. The attendees were patient with one another and giving. It felt almost like a church. People talked to each other and embraced one another. Once strangers we were all friends by day two.  There were spontaneous gestures of love all weekend such as the conga line at lunch, the crowd offering up a beautiful happy birthday Song to Iyanla and Oprah dancing with us to sounds of  DJ Kiss.

By lunch the Party was just getting started  and we rocked the day away. O town was open with sponsors and celebrities out to greet the crowd.  My daughter who was my guest for the event took selfies with Gayle King, Elizabeth Gilbert, Rob Bell and Amy Purdy.  It was a love fest.

Iyanla VI raise my hand and hat to Lady Oprah. Cheers. Thank you for bringing this event to us live and in person.  I have already begun my homework of working on my areas of life that do not resemble what I believe to be true. I have set my intention to live better, be better and not to settle for less.  Thank you and cheers.

Purely Yours,


As a member of the media I was so impressed with the care that was given to us. We received the most amazing seats and love by the media staff. This event raised my bar of how I want to be treated at future events I cover.  Full disclosure I recieved tickets to the event along with a guest (daughter) compliments of Life You Want Tour,LLC. 


What If The Roles Were Reversed?

7 Sep

A few weeks ago I was privileged to speak at a book club annual event. It was a joyous occasion9781476730530being amongst book lovers. So while traveling in the hotel and mingling with folks throughout the two-day event I would stop and pose the question “What are you currently reading?” to whomever I ran into. The answers varied but one answer that caught my attention was by a woman who said “I am reading Forty Acres and you should too” She went on to express how the book was a thriller with a hook.

I was sold and wanted to know more about this book. A few days later, I had the book Forty Acres; A Thriller, in my hands. A few short moments later I knew this book would go down in history as a must read book. I also knew that  one day this book will be made into a movie. The premise of the book lives in a secret society of affluent African-Americans who are out to reverse the system in their own way. For those of you that follow my blog I am hugely a self-help book fan but every now and then I take a detour. Forty Acres was my detour into fiction writing. I laid awake  for four nights in darkness praying that the beacon of light Martin would break through as I moved through this fast paced thriller.

At times I found myself in rage with the characters and then at other times I was in agreement about society and the history of the black plight. This story also begs the question of forgiveness. African-Americans who labored so hard to build this country are often in a trance by ideology to forgive the wrongs that were done to us. It is even written in our American constitution that we should not reap any reward for our sufferings. Prisons are filled with African-American men and women who commit petty crimes. We are also asked to sit down while our children continue to be murdered in the street, mostly recently in Ferguson,Missouri.

This book challenges us to think about race relations today in America. It asks the question – Can we reverse the effects of Slavery?  It also begs us to examine unfair practices that have driven wealth out of black communities. At the end of the book I wondered to myself – What if slavery was reversed? Would African-Americans have been so easily forgiven?

Have you read this thriller? Share your thoughts with me.

With faith and hope for a brighter future,

Melisa Alaba

Melisa Alaba is a Spiritual Life Coach, Speaker and  Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her  classes or retreats. Learn more at  www.melisaalaba.com


All Is Well

6 Sep
All is Well , Heal Your Body

All is Well , Heal Your Body


We live in a time where sickness and disease are common occurrences and are almost expectations of getting older. With the rise of holistic medicine it seems there is a battle between traditional solutions and new age remedies. All Is Well is the solution to the question – Do I follow the instructions of my doctor or my herbalist? The authors seek to integrate medical advances with holistic approaches to find long-term solutions so we can become healthy people.

All Is Well: Heal Your Body with Medicine, Affirmations, and Intuition by Louise Hay and Mona Lisa Schulz M.D. Ph.D. goes more in depth with healing the body through the mind body connection. Armed with medical knowledge we look at the origins of medical issues. Louise then guides us to wholeness and wellness with affirmations designed to heal us from the inside out and exercises that empower us to nature ourselves and knowledge.

All Is Well separates the body into groups of organ or emotional centers that are interconnected to our emotions. Based on these emotional centers the authors offer us probable causes to mental and physical issues that we are experiencing.

Whether you are a believer or just curious about the whole mind body experience you can’t help but evaluate and examine your own beliefs about what you are experiencing or have experienced in regards to disease in your life. As I read the book it struck me how the symptoms I once had in my lower back so closely fit the profile of the person Louise described in the chapter on back pain. I remember being stuck during that time and feeling pressure to stay in a situation that I no longer wanted to be in. That is when the back pain started. Once I began to change my situation and make choices that truly supported who I had become the back pain left.

The book remains true to Louise Hays’ core philosophy – we can heal ourselves. We are responsible for our lives. We are also guided to look more ineptly at life situations as we experience issues in our body. What circumstances, core beliefs or life patterns have allowed us to be in this current situation?

I highly recommend this book to anyone who is seeking a new way of being free from disease and sickness. You truly can be well.


Purely yours,


Melisa Alaba is a Spiritual Life Coach, Speaker and  Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her  classes or retreats. Learn more at  www.melisaalaba.com

The Reading Room- The Four Agreements

15 Aug

One Sunday afternoon while watching Super Soul Sunday I was introduced to Don Miquel Ruiz via an interview with Oprah Winfrey. The interview was full of surprises and new thoughts from this award winning author.  Naturally, I wanted to read the book.  If you are uncomfortable with spiritual types of books the author is quick to point out that this book is not about religion rather is about beinghuman and offering the world humility.

Don Miguel Ruiz

Don Miguel Ruiz

In the book, Don Miquel Ruiz takes us on a spiritual journey through the eyes of the Mexican ancient teachings of the Toltec. The book challenges us to look at our interpersonal skills in a unique way. According to Don Miquel Ruiz we are programmed from birth to follow systems and accordingly we take on beliefs that are orally taught to us. These beliefs cause us suffering and often times cause us to hurt others. This easy to read book provides a way to live a life free of struggle and suffering while learning to be more authentic in our being.

The First Agreement – be Impeccable with your word. This teaches us the value of our words and how they affect everything around us. We are urged to learn to honor our words.

The Second Agreement – don’t take anything personally.  We are challenged to release fear and anxiety by not taking anything personal good or bad. Learning this principle allows us to be free from the thoughts of others.

The Third Agreement – don’t make any assumptions.  We are urged to seek the truth rather than make assumptions about a person or a situation.

The Fourth Agreement – always do your best.  Simple enough but many times we struggle because we work to live up to someone else’s standard. Don prompts us to do our best and let go. While we do our best we are truly living a life of abundance.

The Four Agreements offer us solutions to breaking free from the beliefs that do not serve our purpose.  The message is beautifully written and the sharing of the Toltec culture is an added bonus. I recommend this book to anyone seeking a practical guide on living their best life.

Did you enjoy this selection? Did it challenge your beliefs? Write me and let me know you thoughts.

Wishing you peace and joy,


Melisa Alaba is the Author of Live Out Loud, 52 Ways to Reawaken Your Spirit and Live a Life of Purpose. Melisa can be found walking on a trail or sampling chocolate along the coast. You can connect with her on-line via her social media outlets or join her in one of her many classes on her website www.melisaalaba.com

9 Keys to Refresh your Spirit

22 Oct
Over the years I have come to believe that we all need quiet time. We require quiet time to refresh and renew our spirits. Many times our daily lives are over packed with work, family obligation and other routine things. Then one day you wake up and realized you are stressed, angry and discontented with life.  The question I am often asked is  “ How do I start? “ , “ How do I build in time for myself when all my time seems to be allocated to others?”  These are all very good questions to ask ones self.  But where there is a will there is way.
I discovered a few years ago that real living takes place in the “White space “ of everyday life. I define white space as that down time when nothing particular is happening and you are just free to be or do what ever you like. A vacation could be considered white space. Depending on how it is scheduled. But most importantly you do not have to travel to get this “ White space”.  You can have this beautiful block of time in your schedule right now!
Here are a few tips on adding white space to your life:
  1.  Make your commute to work a peaceful oasis. Listen to calm relaxing music or soulful spiritual music that pumps you up for a great day. Limit phone calls during this time so that you can focus on the road and be fully present in the moment.
  2. Take a walk on your lunch break. Instead of going to the mall or out to lunch put on your walking shoes and do a few laps around the building. Notice the beauty of the trees and flowers. Start a practice of being  aware of the present moment.
  3. Take regular wellness days off from work. Yes…You have my permission to pull out your calendar and schedule a day off to just relax. On these days you might go to a museum or watch your favorite programs. Remember that it’s okay to take care of yourself when you are well. In turn you will rarely get sick and be more productive at work and home.
  4. Space your children’s activities out. They need a break and so do you. It’s wonderful to expose your kids to all sorts of activities and programs but too much is overwhelming for your schedule and theirs as well. Work to schedule extra curricular activities that fit in seamlessly with your schedule such as after school programs.
  5. Register and attend a weekly activity just for yourself. Yoga, running, belly dancing or mediation are just a few  activities that calm and soothe the mind and body. There are so many great things to choose from. Choose something you like and try it out for 5 weeks are so. Then pick something else. Keeping your life fun and balanced is one sure way to live a life worth living.
  6. Get out of the Corporate hustle. I know it’s your livelihood. Ask yourself am I really fulfilled by this position? Does this career allow me to lead a balanced life? Sometimes taking a step back is actually a step up in keeping your sanity in a crazy world. Make sure you make career decisions based on your values and not out of fear. If you are not quite sure how to implement this step talk with someone who can help you transition to a position that fits your life.
  7. Plan a hour each day where you can just relax. This may be in the morning before your family starts to stir or in the evening when everyone is gone to bed. Set aside a specific time where you can write in your journal, meditate and pray. It’s amazing what happens when we take the time to be still.
  8. Step away from Social media for a while so that you can balance your life. Many times we think that social media does not take up a lot of our time. But it does.  Step away for a day and see how productive you are. Now start using that time to practice relaxation techniques or mindful living.
  9. Have a stress reliever strategy. What do you do when you are stressed? Have a difficult decision to make? Taking some quiet time will help you to ease your worries and fears while focusing on a solution. Many times we make a rushed decision only later to regret it. Having free time to think a situation over will help you to stay calm and committed to your values.

Now that you have some ideas on how to incorporate  “ white space “ into your everyday life. Pull out your calendar and begin to plan your refreshing mini-escapes today. Soon you will be more relaxed and ready to fully embrace your life. 

As always, I wish you peace and joy on your wellness journey,

Melisa Alaba
Vision Coach

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